B elieve it or not, this is a self-image thing that I’ve dealt with for years. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been trying to get out of doing things that I just couldn’t seem to get excited about. I procrastinated with disastrous effect.
And somewhere long the way, the label of ‘laziness’ got hung on me, and I seemed to have accepted it. Then came the terrible circumstance where one is seemingly powerless to prevent yourself from acting out your own self image. (I suspect my weight struggles are in the same line, but I digress)But somehow it didn’t quite ring true; I’d work to the point of exhaustion on certain things – to the exclusion of virtually everything and everyone else…that’s not being lazy.
I had one lunatic girlfriend conclude that I must just be a selfish ass who doesn’t do anything for anyone else.
Hmmm. Closer perhaps, but still not quite right.
Okay, I don’t have an answer, and THAT’S the point. We don’t need to become perfect to make things work for us.
I still wrestle with near daily guilt over things left undone, I do things at inopportune times – while being wracked with guilt – like web surfing, watching TV, staying up late, leaving projects unfinished while I work on unimportant stuff in an effort to kid myself that I’m still productive (The Colonel used to use the housecleaning excuse to procrastinate on tasks she didn’t like. I finally got a housekeeper to come in and ruined it for her. Haw!)
So grasshopper, here’s the thing. We all have to grow up some time, me included. We don’t need to ‘heal ourselves’ or wait until we’re somehow a perfect manifestation of whatever it is we were put here to do…we just have to go to work.
Sorry; there’s just no way around it. We just have to accept that there are a certain number of things that need doing, and as it’s our lives, it’s our responsibility to see that they get done.
That doesn’t necessarily mean WE have to do it, we just have to make sure it happens.
Here’s my 3-step method to getting more stuff done.
Have Faith, Grasshopper. I’ve developed and worked up a little faith that I can figure it out, or I find someone else who can. That’s the biggie. Don’t let unknown factors cramp you up and cause you to put things off. Figure it out.
Use external commitments. This I just a fancy way of saying that I use deadlines. If there’s someone relying on me, I’ll get it done way before I’ll sweat my own stuff.
Remember that we’ve overcome discomfort before. Remember your first drink of alcohol? Ghastly. Somehow we managed to overcome that and most of us swill it back with some regularity. Or smoking; remember the nausea and fetching green color we turned after that first ciggy? Somehow I overcame that to do a pack a day for 18 years (quitting is easy with a couple of tweaks to the old mindset, but that’s a different topic).
I’ve not had the benefit of the experience myself, but I understand that childbirth is dashed uncomfortable, yet most women have a couple of goes at it!
The point is that we need to slap ourselves awake and see that all this discomfort is only mental and we’ve overcome much worse. We’re not children anymore. It’s time to get serious about things. Figure it out. Get it done. NOW.
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